I am a stay-at-home mom. I suppose it automatically makes me the nucleus of the family, but moms get tired too. There are times when I need to do something out of the ordinary, like when I went to physical therapy for my knee yesterday, that I have to alert everyone to the system so I can go to physical therapy and they can continue to function.
I had to have my husband pick up my daughter at school and take her to her piano lesson. I had to explain to him how to pull into the parking lot and I had to have a discussion about how and why I pull into the parking lot the way I do. I had to remind my oldest daughter she had piano and her dad was picking her up and to remind him to pick up her sister after piano. I had to tell her to practice piano on Sunday and then give her dad her piano books to put in his truck. I felt shaken that I had just remembered she needed her piano books; a detail that almost fell through the cracks. I had to tell my husband to put the piano books in his truck right away or he'd forget them.
Then I had to let go and trust the system. Any number of things could go wrong, would they all remember what they were supposed to be doing? Would my husband remember not to come home right after work, but to pick up my daughter? Would this be the first piano lesson day my daughter forgot and went out the side door to the bus instead of the front door to her dad? Would my husband and oldest daughter forget they needed to go to my other daughter's bus stop after piano and come home? I felt like Santa: "making a list and checking it twice;" or three or four times.
I didn't get any phone calls that anyone had been forgotten or left behind. When I got home everyone was there and had eaten the dinner I had made and popped in the oven before I left. I put the system in place and let it go. Maybe I did way more work than was needed to get them all where they needed to be? Maybe they could have handled it without all the reminders? Maybe I should always have my husband take my daughter to piano?