I can only assume I've succeeded in making the event of having children so much fun, I've ruined it for them (she says with the utmost sarcasm).
My older daughter claims she does not like children. My younger daughter can't imagine "pushing a baby out of my butt." I think to her the only reason to get married is to have children. Again, I guess my husband and I have made the sacrament of matrimony so appealing, we've ruined it for her.
Those of us who have gotten married and had children know not to put a lot of weight in the desires of 13 and 16 year olds. What they don't know is what falling in love does to your brain. Suddenly, things seem clearer and most people at some point have the desire to procreate.
I do admit, I've spent a lot of time scaring my daughters into understanding how painful childbirth and child rearing is and how it would be especially painful if one was still a teenager. So maybe my psychology to make sure they aren't teen mothers will backfire in the long run.
I wasn't particularly fond of other people's children. I did very little babysitting when I was young and even when I was 8 months pregnant, I wasn't interested in holding someone else's newborn. I have had an attachment to other people's toddlers over the years, but mostly because they had an attachment to me.
My oldest is the same way, I believe she had a small flock of early elementary school children who were her committed groupies when she was in middle school and at the bus stop in our neighborhood. She refused to babysit; she didn't want to encourage such a relationship. My youngest has a new flock of early elementary kids who are her groupies, and she will babysit on occasion; but now that she's not at the bus stop anymore, their loyalties have shifted.
It's funny to me that little children love my oldest daughter so much and she rejects their advances. It's probably like the cat who only wants to be with the person who is allergic to cats. Or the dog who wants to jump on the only person who is afraid of dogs. Little children just really love my "big" children.
I really just think my daughters are in the place of not being responsible for their total selves because they are still minors living at home. They are beginning to see there is way more world out there and at some point they will be responsible for it. Adding children of their own is daunting.
But that's okay. Heck, mine are 13 and 16 and I still think it's daunting. So as of this writing, there are no grandchildren in my future. I think I've done my job here.