I have a girlfriend in a midlife crisis and she is having fun going to concerts and getting her hair colored and her nails done. I just can't see my middle-aged, overweight self getting down at a concert and I'm much too cheap to keep my short hair colored and my nails done. Not to mention everything after 10:00pm seems extremely late to me.
Then a couple days ago my mother called unexpectedly and told me she needed to go into urgent care. Our insurance company only has urgent care about 20 miles away, so it was a trip and it was pouring down rain. After we had been there a couple hours and they determined she just had a sinus infection or inner ear infection she was released to go. She sat up and looked at me excitedly and offered to treat me to dinner at a nice Greek restaurant in the same town.
Now I don't know about you, but after having my day interrupted (though I don't mind when my mother needs help), throwing some sort of quick dinner together for my family before running out the door to get my mother, driving several miles in the pouring rain, delivering my mother to the front door of the hospital, getting her a wheel chair, wheeling her in, going back out to park the car, and sitting in urgent care for a couple hours, I really didn't think going out to dinner at a nice restaurant sounded like a fun mother/daughter bonding experience. It was right up there with the time she wanted to make consecutive mammogram appointments and then go out for lunch. I just can't get into that kind of fun. Needless to say I refused both offers.
So now I think maybe to figure out how to have fun, I need to eliminate what I don't think is fun, starting with hospitals and food experiences combined. I may have to rethink the concert, although I would probably keep it to Barry Manilow or James Taylor or something equally as mellow; nothing that requires rocking out and jiggling my bowl full of jelly. I also don't think it's fun to drag teenagers around to things they don't want to go to, so I'll eliminate family outings with teens. My husband talks about cars when we go out together, so outings with him can't require long conversation, just movies.
So what is left? Napping! I always have fun napping. I think I'll go have some fun right now.