It was supposed to be a simple Halloween. We are going to go to a party at our friends' house for a bit then come home. My oldest is going to do her homework, answer the door and pass out candy. Then we were going to take our youngest to a friend's house in our neighborhood and they were going to trick-or-treat their way back to our house.
I have been asking my youngest all week if she had additional plans to trick-or-treat with her school friends. "I don't know" was always her answer.
So last night at 9:00 pm I am told her neighborhood friend wants to go to a party in a different neighborhood. My daughter didn't want to go so asked if she could have her classmates over. One of her classmates and her mom had agreed her trick-or-treating days were over, but the next thing I know my daughter has me talking to the girl's mom on Skype and I am asking if her daughter can trick-or-treat.
I immediately regretted the decision. I felt like I was pressuring her to let her daughter trick-or-treat when they had already made a family decision not to.
Then the mom of the other friend she had asked to come over said no; but she could go to their house. Her mom was the smart one; avoiding the drama before it got off the ground.
So to make a long story short, there still aren't any definite plans and I feel I overstepped a line by talking to the one mom on Skype, so I texted the mom and apologized. I hadn't intended on overriding her decision.
I went to bed feeling bad and angry I had gotten in the middle of the drama. I should know better than to get involved in middle school plans before they know what they are doing.
This morning I gave up trying to figure it out and I removed myself from the middle school drama. I told my daughter to text me when she and her friends had a plan.